“The Grinch never really hated Christmas, he hated people which is fair.”
Hi readers. Hope you’re doing well and had a lovely time celebrating Christmas with your family.
As I mentioned in my previous post, winter time is wonderful because of the holidays and festivities around us. However, on the other side, there are numerous factors that can cause one to loose their holiday spirit. For instance, looking at your bank statements after buying all the presents can surely increase the financial burden we all dread. For some who live alone or have lost a loved one, and do not even have the privilege of visiting their families as they would please, Christmas and New Years is just an emotional time. To be very honest, the high expectations of having to act friendly and getting along with the very annoying extended family and acquaintances can be challenging.
Before I begin with ways that I have helped me hold onto the Holiday spirit, I want to let you know that it’s okay if you’re feeling like a grinch. Along with the generations, the traditional ways of celebrating any festival have changed. The pressure of pleasing people and outperforming others have taken away from the real values: love and appreciation. I can’t possibly tell what you must do but if you find yourself not being able to enjoy the holidays, here are a few things to remember:
- Don’t try to fake that you love holidays because if not everyone else, at least your heart will know that it’s just an act. In spite of that, if you still decide to pretend, make sure you fake it until you make it. Be intentional about enjoying this time in order to find some cheer and positivity for yourself.
- It’s not just about presents. When you look at it the right way, you’ll notice that Holidays are way more than just parties, social status and financial spending to make others happy. Instead, it’s about your family and close friends so spend more time with them wrapped up in cozy blankets with board games and hot drinks on your side. Observe the love that people are showering upon you and let it all sink in.
- Help someone. Do something good and kind for a stranger. Their smile will bring you warmth and knowing that you have the power to make others happy whilst you’re sad, is very emotionally fulfilling. Yes, do it for yourself. An act of kindness shall benefit you as much as it would someone who needs it.
- Don’t feel obliged to like someone whom you don’t. If someone’s brought you pain and can take your moment of bliss away, avoid them. Of course, don’t be rude but limit your interactions and communication with them. Be grateful that they helped you become who you are today.
- Shift your focus from what’s stressing you to what games should you be playing with your friends and cousins. Take pride in activities that delighted you as kids and find a way to incorporate them in your present life. Perhaps, you like going to the movies or maybe you like having small group of people play board games with you. Whatever it is that you define as fun, do it.
- Show appreciation for your close circle. Don’t judge anyone and forgive those who have hurt you. Be yourself and let others be as well. There must have been various road blocks in yours and your closed ones’ lives that had an impact on their personality. Accept that people change and move on.
- Try listening to holiday music and indulging in seasonal themed activities. For example go see a tunnel of lights near you or go ice skating during Christmas. Give yourself a chance to feel the cold and fresh breeze when you’re overwhelmed with lack of emotions and experience a sense of peace take over you. Go decorate the Christmas tree at your friends place and plan a little night for everyone who matters to you outside of your family. Learn to reevaluate your personal relationships.
- Lastly, don’t be too hard on yourself for missing the holiday vibe. Sometimes life takes an unwanted turn and amidst all the confusion, it gets undeniably tough to control how you feel. The more you punish yourself, the less will you be able to separate yourself from the self inflicted agony. Redirect your attention from yourself to others and your surroundings and watch the simple magic of holiday unfold.
Fun Fact: For the first time in a very long time, I have had the opportunity to celebrate with my mom. Honestly, this season has brought me and family so close that it’s nothing short of a magic spell from god itself.
P.S- Thank you to everyone who has read my posts in the past and have taken the time to fill me in with their struggles and achievements. I appreciate you so very much. If you have anything to share with me about your views towards vacations and holidays, please feel free to email me. You don’t have to agree with me on anything at all. All feedback is equally loved.